Calm Parenting University Workshop Session 3 Recap

Are you beginning to notice a new atmosphere in your home? Are you starting to experience a new hope for your home? I continue to pray that God will use these concrete practical strategies to help you on your journey to become the parents God has created us to be so that we can raise the twenty-three year old, healthy, well-adjusted adults God has created our children to be.

CPU Workshop Session 3 Recap

Key Idea:

When was the last time you physically showed your children HOW to handle their anger, frustration and disappointment? Emotional meltdowns and defiance are tremendous opportunities to teach our children the lifelong skill of self-control while building a closer relationship.

10 Strategies to Stop Defiance, Disrespect, and Meltdowns:

  1. Do not provoke. How do we provoke our kids?
  2. Do not react. Ever.
  3. Practice acknowledgement to defuse situations.
  4. Do not misjudge your kids’ motives.
  5. Get to the root of the issue.
  6. Put it back in your child’s court. Give them ownership.
  7. Teach your kids how to disagree respectfully.
  8. Demonstrate self-respect when your kids are outwardly defiant or ignore you.
  9. Match your kids’ intensity with problem solving.
  10. Turn meltdowns into an opportunity.

Key Scriptures:

  1. Proverbs 15:1
  2. Colossians 3:21
  3. Proverbs 15:8

Actions Steps:

  1. Reach out to one other parent this week. Share a listening ear and encouragement.
  2. Practice the power of acknowledgement this week.
  3. Develop a new calming routine as a family.

May God bless you richly this week as you move forward to becoming more of what God created you to be so your kids can become more of what God created them to be.

Calm Parenting University Workshop Session 2 Recap

My journey as a Christian, husband, and father has been filled with earth-shattering sorrows and life-giving joys, humbling defeats and overwhelming victories, with less and less of myself while I become more and more.

Perhaps you were as surprised as I was that the first things we need to do as parents to change our homes and lives is to take care of ourselves. My earliest years as a parent were filled with my search for methods that would change my children’s behavior, but the truth is that I first needed to change my own behavior.

I pray that you have been able begin applying the first ten strategies and have been working on the three action steps from session 1. I am continuing to pray for you as we continue to grow into the parents God has called us to be so that we can raise the twenty-three year old, healthy, well-adjusted adults God has called our children to be.

CPU Workshop Session 2 Recap

Key Idea:

Most of us have tried escalating consequences, bribing, begging, threatening and yelling to get our kids to behave… but nothing changes. This week, our focus is on building the lifelong character trait of self-control in our children.

Key Principles:

  1. Discipline is something you do FOR your child, not TO your child.
  2. Disciple is NOT punishment, discipline is teaching.
  3. Discipline is love.

10 Strategies to Discipline & Get Your Kids to Listen:

  1. Rewind and replay.
  2. Give kids tools to succeed.
  3. Give kids choices and ownership (if you were there, think pots and pans example).
  4. Take action. Act with integrity.
  5. Practice impulse control.
  6. Lead without fear.
  7. Establish proper boundaries between parents and children.
  8. Do not allow tantrums to work.
  9. Get to the root of the issue. Come alongside.
  10. Call your child’s bluff.

Key Scriptures:

  1. Proverbs 29:17
  2. Hebrews 12:6
  3. Hebrews 12:11
  4. Matthew 5:37
  5. Hebrews 4:16

Action Steps:

  1. Take time to reflect on how you were disciplined as a child.
  2. Practice one new discipline tool this week.
  3. Give your kids tools.

May God bless you richly this week as you move forward to becoming more of what God created you to be so your kids can become more of what God created them to be.