Calm Parenting University Workshop Session 4 Recap

Since our Calm Parenting Workshop on June 24, I have been on a journey to become the father, the parent that God created me to be so that I could raise my children to become everything God created them to be. I have laughed and cried, had great moments and monumental letdowns, but through it all I have grown. I have grown as a parent. I have grown as a husband. I have grown as a man. And our home, our family is better for it.

I have been praying that you would experience the same growth that I have been living. And I continue to pray that God guides you on your journey to become the parent God has created you to be so that you can raise the twenty-three year old, healthy, well-adjusted adults God has created your children to be.

CPU Workshop Session 4 Recap

Key Idea:

Instead of trying to externally motivate your children, it’s critical to spark internal motivation so they can take responsibility for their own lives.

10 Strategies to Motivate Your Kids:

  1. Raise your kids according to THEIR way, not yours.
  2. Speak to your kids like adults. It makes them feel safe.
  3. Replace lectures with intense praise. Create a vision of who your child can be.
  4. Motivate kids by respecting their space and removing yourself.
  5. Practice servant leadership.
  6. Rebuild your relationship.
  7. Address the deeper issues.
  8. Meet needs instead of changing behavior.
  9. Spark internal motivation.
  10. Reach into your child’s heart.

Key Scriptures:

  1. Proverbs 22:6
  2. Luke 15:4-6
  3. Matthew 20:26-28
  4. Matthew 21:28-32

Action Steps:

  1. Praise your children with intensity.
  2. Consider apologizing for lecturing, yelling, or being controlling.
  3. Make a list of your child’s natural gifts, talents and passions.

May God bless you richly through your ongoing journey to become more of what God created you to be so your kids can become more of what He created them to be.

Calm Parenting University Workshop Session 3 Recap

Are you beginning to notice a new atmosphere in your home? Are you starting to experience a new hope for your home? I continue to pray that God will use these concrete practical strategies to help you on your journey to become the parents God has created us to be so that we can raise the twenty-three year old, healthy, well-adjusted adults God has created our children to be.

CPU Workshop Session 3 Recap

Key Idea:

When was the last time you physically showed your children HOW to handle their anger, frustration and disappointment? Emotional meltdowns and defiance are tremendous opportunities to teach our children the lifelong skill of self-control while building a closer relationship.

10 Strategies to Stop Defiance, Disrespect, and Meltdowns:

  1. Do not provoke. How do we provoke our kids?
  2. Do not react. Ever.
  3. Practice acknowledgement to defuse situations.
  4. Do not misjudge your kids’ motives.
  5. Get to the root of the issue.
  6. Put it back in your child’s court. Give them ownership.
  7. Teach your kids how to disagree respectfully.
  8. Demonstrate self-respect when your kids are outwardly defiant or ignore you.
  9. Match your kids’ intensity with problem solving.
  10. Turn meltdowns into an opportunity.

Key Scriptures:

  1. Proverbs 15:1
  2. Colossians 3:21
  3. Proverbs 15:8

Actions Steps:

  1. Reach out to one other parent this week. Share a listening ear and encouragement.
  2. Practice the power of acknowledgement this week.
  3. Develop a new calming routine as a family.

May God bless you richly this week as you move forward to becoming more of what God created you to be so your kids can become more of what God created them to be.

Calm Parenting University Workshop Session 1 Recap

I had a great day at the Calm Parenting University Workshop on June 24th. I enjoyed listening to the stories of the many parents who joined us,hearing from their hearts. I also enjoyed hearing from Kirk Martin and learning 40 concrete strategies to stop defiance, disrespect and yelling.

Truth be told, however, it was a TON OF INFORMATION to cram in to six short hours. I have been praying that God would work in and through the lives of every parent touched by the workshop – to help them apply these strategies to more effectively parent our children.

As I continue to pray for each of the CPU Workshop participants over the next several weeks, I am going to provide follow up posts summarizing each of the four sessions and include a list of action steps with each.

I pray that this information serves as a blessing for each of the parents who joined us at our workshop. I am also praying that each person to read this would be blessed by this.

Remember: You are not raising a child. You are raising a twenty-three year old, healthy, well-adjusted adult who makes good decisions.

CPU Workshop Session 1 Recap

Key Idea:

It is not your job to control your child’s behavior. Your job is to control your own behavior… and teach your kids how to control their own emotions, moods, and behavior.

10 Strategies to Stop the Yelling, Lecturing, and Power Struggles:

  1. Control yourself.
  2. Demonstrate self-respect.
  3. Step back so your kids can step up.
  4. Conquer your control issues.
  5. Stop controlling people’s emotions.
  6. Control your own anxiety.
  7. Identify your triggers.
  8. Say no to rushing, over-commitment and toxic influences.
  9. Say yes to self-care.
  10. Do the opposite of what your anxiety is telling you to do.

Key Scriptures:

Proverbs 25:28
Proverbs 16:32
Galatians 6:22-23
Matthew 7:3-5

Actions Steps:

  1. Do one activity this week to demonstrate self-care and self-respect.
  2. Identify one trigger this week and create a plan to counter it.
  3. Practice one new habit this week.

May God bless you richly this week as you move forward to becoming more of what God created you to be so your kids can become more of what God created them to be.