My journey as a Christian, husband, and father has been filled with earth-shattering sorrows and life-giving joys, humbling defeats and overwhelming victories, with less and less of myself while I become more and more.
Perhaps you were as surprised as I was that the first things we need to do as parents to change our homes and lives is to take care of ourselves. My earliest years as a parent were filled with my search for methods that would change my children’s behavior, but the truth is that I first needed to change my own behavior.
I pray that you have been able begin applying the first ten strategies and have been working on the three action steps from session 1. I am continuing to pray for you as we continue to grow into the parents God has called us to be so that we can raise the twenty-three year old, healthy, well-adjusted adults God has called our children to be.
CPU Workshop Session 2 Recap
Most of us have tried escalating consequences, bribing, begging, threatening and yelling to get our kids to behave… but nothing changes. This week, our focus is on building the lifelong character trait of self-control in our children.
- Discipline is something you do FOR your child, not TO your child.
- Disciple is NOT punishment, discipline is teaching.
- Discipline is love.
10 Strategies to Discipline & Get Your Kids to Listen:
- Rewind and replay.
- Give kids tools to succeed.
- Give kids choices and ownership (if you were there, think pots and pans example).
- Take action. Act with integrity.
- Practice impulse control.
- Lead without fear.
- Establish proper boundaries between parents and children.
- Do not allow tantrums to work.
- Get to the root of the issue. Come alongside.
- Call your child’s bluff.
- Proverbs 29:17
- Hebrews 12:6
- Hebrews 12:11
- Matthew 5:37
- Hebrews 4:16
- Take time to reflect on how you were disciplined as a child.
- Practice one new discipline tool this week.
- Give your kids tools.
May God bless you richly this week as you move forward to becoming more of what God created you to be so your kids can become more of what God created them to be.